Would you believe that simply owning a smartphone makes you much more likely to have an affair? Therapist Dr. Sheri Meyers is the author of Chatting or Cheating? And she says a lot of affairs these days start out as emotional affairs. Where there’s zero physical contact, instead, you get extremely close emotionally – to the point where you’re confiding in your online friend more than your own partner!

And smartphones help fuel emotional affairs. Because they let you text, email, and Face time anyone, anytime and anywhere you want. And what starts as a harmless friend request on Facebook from an old classmate can quickly turn into flirty texts, passionate emails and phone calls – before turning physical.

So, how can you tell if your smartphone friendship is buddy-buddy or affair-worthy? Beware of these warning signs that you’ve slipped into cheating territory:

  • You share personal things with someone else that you’d usually only tell your partner.
  • You give them more attention than your partner. If you interrupt dinner with your partner to answer a text from this so-called “friend” – that’s crossing the line.
  • You’re detaching emotionally and physically from your partner.
  • You wouldn’t be comfortable letting your partner see any of your messages.

If any of this describes you, you're putting your primary relationship at risk. And if you care about saving it, it's time to put on the brakes on the cyber friendship and start pouring the energy, time, and focus you've been giving to your "friend" back into your partner. Want to know more? Check out the book Chatting or Cheating by Dr. Sheri Meyers.

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Meredith McKenna