If the holidays are supposed to bring people together, we’ve gotten off track. According to a recent survey, more than half of us – whether we’re married or single - say that comfort and joy take a backseat to stress and negative emotions. Here are a few holiday facts:

  • Loneliness. That’s the main issue for singles. Nearly half of singletons say that the holidays magnify social negatives, like a recent break-up. And the nonstop parties and family get-togethers don’t help. In fact, 1-in-4 single people say that they get stressed about attending holiday parties alone. And inevitable questions like, “When are you going to settle down?” make them dread it.

  • Time pressures and financial considerations is a big one for married couples. In fact, it tops the list of holiday issues that put a strain on their relationship. And that’s followed by stressing out – and arguing about - whose family they “get” to spend the holidays with.

  • Good news! The negative effects of the holidays actually go down with age. Why? Because as we get older, and more mellow, we’re more interested in spending quality family time together. Older people are less stressed in general, are better able to roll with the punches - and not as bothered about appearances. So, as you get older you’ll care less about having that “special someone” to celebrate the holidays with. You’ll be content to spend it with the people you’re closest to – even if you’re single.

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