So, your spouse's laptop is just sitting there, and their email account is open. It wouldn't hurt just to look at a few emails, would it? Not so fast! Digging through your partner's personal correspondence isn't just a breach of trust because snooping on your spouse could actually kill you!
UCLA psychiatrist Dr. Jeffrey Schwartz points out that snooping behavior, like reading someone's texts, or going through their drawers, can cause serious physical and psychological damage. For example:
- People who snoop are scared they'll get caught. Fear raises your heart rate and blood pressure. And since one in three adults already have high blood pressure, it could set you up for a heart attack.
- It can contribute to impaired cognitive skills. Fear releases excess adrenaline and cortisol, which can reduce blood flow and oxygen to the part of the brain responsible for problem solving. And that can affect your memory.
- Snooping can also lead to weight gain. Increased levels of stress hormones are linked to increased dangerous belly fat. And obesity is the number-two cause of preventable death.
- Spying on your spouse can also cause anxiety disorders. Snooping can lead to chronic worrying, which can actually change the way your brain functions! It can greatly increase your risk of developing an anxiety or panic disorder.
- It can cause sleep problems. You might find yourself tossing and turning at night, obsessing over what you weren't supposed to see. And studies show that not getting enough sleep is linked to car crashes, as well as an increased risk of developing a chronic disease, like high blood pressure, and even cancer.
The bottom line is if you want to know what your spouse is up to? Ask.
Have you ever spied on your spouse?