3 Emotional Energy Zappers
One day you’re full of pep – the next day you’re dragging. Why? Well, most of us immediately think a lack of sleep is to blame, but it's not always the case. If you’re getting enough rest, then there could be a few emotional reasons draining your energy.
To find out which emotional energy zappers do the most damage, I tracked down integrative medicine expert, Dr. Tasneem Bhatia. She gave me a list of the top three things that have a tendency to drag us down:
- Toxic relationships. It can be anything from an overly needy friend to a passive-aggressive coworker. How do you know who’s robbing your energy? Pay attention to how you feel after you’re with people. Do you feel drained? That’s your energy vampire right there. Try to minimize your interactions with that person. And counteract their toxicity by spending more time with people who make you feel energized. You may also want to check to see if you’re an energy vampire. When you call people, do they rush off the phone? When you’re with them, do they look around the room? If so, you may want to adjust your own behavior.
- Clutter is another energy drain. Just looking at clutter makes you feel tired because your eyes have nowhere to land. It's visually distracting. And you may not realize it at the time, but looking at stuff piled everywhere can make you feel anxious and overwhelmed. Think of that feeling you get every time you see that giant stack of paperwork on your desk that still needs filing. That anxiety raises stress hormones, which can leave you feeling completely worn out.
- Your emotions. If you feel wiped out by 8 o’clock at night, it could be your emotions from the day coming to a head. Early evening is when people are most emotional and that can cause fatigue. A natural reaction is to bump up your energy by eating carbs, but that’ll just drain you even more. Instead, front load your calories by eating more earlier in the day and a lighter meal at night. And to deal with your emotions, write them down. When you can see them in black and white, you’ll be able to look at them more rationally and see if they’re really worth the emotional energy you’re giving them.