The Best Marriage Advice Is From Divorced Friends?

You want good marriage advice? Try asking your divorced friends what they think. Apparently, they're the ones who give the best advice about marriage. I just read about a 25 year study that found divorcees can provide some pretty good perspective on the situation since they learned what works and what doesn't. It makes sense to me since they can look back on their own experiences and figure out what they could have done differently, which could help us in the long run. My Facebook fan, Sandy Zimmerman Lovett, agrees with those researchers. She says advice from a divorced friend could be very insightful, especially if they've done the work to learn from their mistakes.

But not everybody thinks so. Some people say getting marriage advice from someone who failed at it isn't a good idea at all. Another Facebook fan, Kathleen Radcliffe Holt, chimed in, saying divorced people aren't the experts. She would rather listen to her in-laws, who have been married for 59 years, instead of a divorced friend. She says the proof is in the pudding since her husband's parents have shown her they know what it takes to make a marriage work. And I can't argue your point there either, Kathleen.

A few of my married friends have given me some great advice, but I've also gotten suggestions from a few divorced people I know who reminded me about being grateful for some of the things in my own marriage. We'll give you the full story on the radio show next week, where we'll tell you exactly what advice divorced people are doling out. What do you think? Would you take relationship advice from someone who was divorced? Back

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