According to relationship experts, there are plenty of people under 30 who’ve already got a failed, first marriage under their belt. So, if you or someone you know is a young divorcee, or you don’t to wind up that way, here’s some expert advice that’ll help. We got this from the researchers at Match .com.
The younger you are when you get married, the more likely the marriage will end in divorce. Overall, 40% of marriages fail. But that number goes up to 50% or more for people in their 20s. Some experts believe that this generation is more noncommittal because their mentality is “there’s always someone new on the horizon”.
So how does it feel to be divorced so young? According to surveys, the reactions range from relief to regret. Some 20-somethings feel like they missed out on years of being young and discovering their own identity, so they’re happy to be single again. Others say their divorce really tore them up. But as hard as it is, they’re still likely to have it easier than people who split up when they’re older. According to relationship expert Dr. Gilda Carle, it’s easier for younger people to get right back on the horse. They’re more adventurous and they don’t have a long history of being hurt.
How does the young divorcee get back out there and meet someone new? According to clinical psychologist Dr. Joan Kelly, author of Surviving the Breakup, just because you’re divorced, that doesn’t mean your youthful spirit should fall by the wayside. So join a group or attend events you enjoyed before you got married. It’s easier to make friends and romantic connections, no matter what age you are, if you both have something in common. But you can meet people anywhere you normally go – from the car wash to the grocery store. All it takes is opening your mouth and saying hello. Wanna learn more? Check out the book Surviving the Breakup.