If you’re going through a hard time, I have the 3 keys to bouncing back. It’s called “emotional resilience”. And after the 9-11 attacks, Stanford University psychologists kept tabs on the emotional well-being of 7,000 people from around the world through emails and phone calls. Those who bounced back best from depression, fear, and grief used these key factors. They’re basically the first-aid kit for emotional resilience.

  • The first key is having friends who listen. The people who bounced back the most quickly had bigger social networks, got more emotional support from friends, and they weren’t afraid to express their grief, vulnerability, and fear.
  • The second key is self-acceptance. The people who bounced back didn’t blame or criticize themselves for life’s ups and downs. The people who didn’t bounce back did.
  • And the third key to emotional resilience is having faith in the goodness of others. Despite the bad things that happen – like the 9-11 attacks, the people who bounced back still had faith in the kindness of others and still thought the world was, overall, a good and decent place.