The issue is so common it’s even got a name: "Post-nuptial remorse." And according to a recent survey, 1 in 11 people regretted getting married on their actual wedding day!
What’s the deal here? A generation ago, experts say that couples much more willing to "grin and bear" their marriages and to "settle" for stability. But today, we’re constantly upgrading and improving our lives. So, we’re a lot less willing to “settle” for anything, anymore. What are the top reasons for regrets?
- They felt like they’d lost their independence.
- They felt they married the wrong person.
- Married life was boring and monotonous.
There is some good news in all this. Couples have the most regrets at the end of the first and second year of marriage. But after 5 years, couples are 75 percent less likely to regret getting married.
So, if people have regrets, should they suck it up and make the best of it - and hope that things will improve? What do you think?
When we posted this on Facebook, we got a lot of responses:
- Carla C. – "I may not like being married sometimes, but it’s better than being alone."
- Wendy S. – "'I vow to suck it up’ isn’t part of the wedding vows. You have one life – why stay married if you’re miserable."
- Amy H. – "A lot of women feel pressure to get married by a certain age – and so they often settle and eventually divorce. I’m turning 37 and am engaged for the first time and couldn’t be happier. Ladies, wait for the man of your dreams – he’ll come!"